Loving Love, We Incurable Romantics - J Hall

Most women and many guys are incurable romantics. Love is our thing. We want the dream world with the dream relationship. "Mr. Right" and "Ms. Right" are always just around the next corner - or else we always temporarilly think we already have them. Supermarkets are exciting to us, as are corner cafes.

Well, there are psychological reasons for acting and dreaming as we do, but those are beyond this simple blog post. Incurable romantics are lonely people, and that is okay. It's in us, and our likes and needs propiate its growth - good or bad.

To be blunt, some of us are "in love with love." We are the genuine incurable romantics. The idea and dream of the perfect mate and family and the white pickett fence and old fashioned home (whether in a skyscraper or on a farm) means a lot to us. (Some of you already understand.)

To some extent, if our dream is not quite yet a reality, we subconsciously re-invent what we had in the past to be a kind of "good old days." Yes, if we do not have the dream situation now, evidently we once had it and blew it. (A nice yet sad thought, until we talk to the ex-lover or companion once involved with us.)

Folks, many writers and down-to-earth people love the past, dream about the future, and hope for the best. However, what we consider our remarkable nostalgia, caring, and sentimentality is often an avoidance or regret of our current lives. We fail to realize that even "today" will one day be "The Good Old Days." 

Yes, we are in love with the notion of love, not exactly specific people like we think, we incurable romantics - we are not completely happy with the "present." Each person we meet that enters our lives is a kind of potential person to "fill in a blank" for an unattainable love or "too perfect to find/have love."

We need a reality check, all of us.

~ Jimmy Hall is owner of JIMMY HALL WRITING SERVICES (404-580-1501).